Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Interrupted Expectations

There comes a time when we all move on.  Other opportunities present themselves and seasons in life change.  Although grief will always be a part of my life, I am thankful that healing does come.  While the tears don't stain my cheeks as frequently, no matter how much time passes they will always stain my eyes.

While I have no plans to remove this website, I will not be updating it much in the future.  I pray that God will continue to use it to bless those who are experiencing Interrupted Expectations. And, I pray that it will be a guide and a glimpse into grief for those who are blessing the hurting. 

If you find a book, post, verse, or idea that has blessed you, please let me know.  I would love to add it.

I hope that you will join us at our sister blog - Our Out-of-Sync Life.  Also, join us for accountability and spiritual encouragement on SISTERS at ABCJLM on Facebook.

Until then, I leave you with my favorite verse.

Jeremiah 29:11

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
God bless...

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Healthy Grieving #6 - Find a Support Group

God created us to need others.  Grief doesn't change this.  Being by yourself while grieving can be very dangerous.  Don’t feel like you can or have to go through it alone.  Try to find a church or community grief support group.  We need encouragers! 

It is very important that you find those who has experienced something similar.  Unfortunately, those who haven't shared in your "kind" of grief don't understand.  They sometimes give some crazy advice simply because they don't understand.  People in a support group with similar situations will understand. 

Unsure of support groups available in your area?  Call a local church or hospital.  Pray that God will lead you to a group that can hold your hand as you travel the roads of grief.

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Healthy Grieving #5 - Write a Letter

This one is the toughest for me.  Tip #5 is writing a letter to the loved one that you lost.  Honestly, I didn’t do this.  Probably never will.  The concept is that you share with the person you lost through a letter stating what you wish you could tell them in person.  I definitely have talked to my loved one many times, but I haven’t gone so far as to put it down on paper. 

There are so many things a grieving person wishes they could tell that very special person.  It just might be an “I love you” or “I miss you”.  This tip can be especially helpful if you lost your loved one and didn’t get time to prepare.   This letter could help with the closure that is so important.  It just might be the step that is needed for healing. 

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Guest Post: When Mother's Day is Difficult

Mother's Day is not a joyous day for everyone.  There are women who desperately want to be with their moms but can't because of death or shattered relationship.  Mother's Day is a fat reminder that the daily relationship with their mom is no longer there. 

Then there are women who desperately want to be a mom.  While everyone else is receiving cards and roses, these women are reminded once again that their arms are empty. 

Read an article written by a woman who is reminded every year in May that she is not a Mommy yet. A reminder to us all to be on the lookout for those who grieve this Mother's Day holiday.

On May 9th, we celebrate Mother’s Day once again. For many, it’s a time of appreciation and joy. For others, it can be one of the most difficult days of the year. This is often true for women facing infertility, families who have recently experienced the loss of a mother, and many other painful situations.

I’ve learned what it’s like for Mother’s Day to be difficult through my work at Dayspring as a card writer. Each year we receive letters about our “Difficult Mother’s Day” cards. One woman expressed her appreciation and then said, “I spent seven very painful Mother’s Days longing for motherhood while dealing with infertility and the losses of eight children through miscarriage and failed adoptions. I’ve also seen my own mother’s grief and struggle through Mother’s Day after the death of her mother. And I have many friends in less-than-ideal situations with their children.”  Read more...

Thank you Holley for allowing me to share part of your journey.
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Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Healthy Grieving #4 - Journal

This is a continuation from the last blog on "10 Tips for Healthy Grieving" by Steve Arterburn.

Tip number four for Healthy Grieving is journaling.  Simply stated, you just write out how you are feeling.  This may take the form of a prayer or just thoughts as they come.  The only rule is that you just be honest.  Since this is for your eyes only, there is no fear.  By writing down your thoughts, you have a resource to go back to and see if you are changing or growing in your faith. 

This is something that I didn’t do and really wish I would have.  At the time it seemed like I would never forget what was happening.  But looking back, I wonder just how I really felt.  I remember that my heart was down to my toes, but I have forgetten the details.  As I help others through the grieving process, I realize it would have been good to be able to go back and remember what I felt at that time.