Sunday, April 26, 2009

Helping Those Who Are Grieving

1) You don't have to have it all together to help. I feel that the Lord allowed us to go through the pain so that we can help others. This doesn't mean that I have it all together and all figured out but God uses cracked pots!

2) Helping others takes your time. Serving means that you might be inconveniences. Isn't that what being a servant means?

3) Don't try to fix it or make it better. Just listen and validate the person's feelings. Their feelings probably won't make sense to you because grief is personal and unique. That's okay.

4) Use open ended questions that require specific answers.

5) Figure out the person's love language - "quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. If you express love toward others in a way they don't understand, they will not realize you've expressed your love at all." The Heart of the Five Love Languages

6) Ask about the person who pasted away. People assume that those grieving won't want to talk about the person they lost because it hurts too much or will make them cry. This couldn't be further from the truth.

7) Don't have your own agenda when helping people.

8) Find out when the family will be gone and ask if you can come in and clean their home or do lawn work then. Take your own cleaning supplies over to their home. You never know what they might be out of and you don't want to not be able to clean something.

9) Offer to come and answer the phone or get the door.

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