Wednesday, December 22, 2010

An Elephant in the Room

A friend posted this poem on the 1 month anniversary of their daughter's death.  It is so perfect. 

There's an elephant in the room.
It is large and squatting,
So it is hard to get around it.
Yet we squeeze by with "How are you? And "I'm Fine."
And a thousand other forms of trivial chatter.

We talk about the weather.
We talk about work.
We talk about everything-except the elephant in the room.

There's an elephant in the room.
We all know it is there.
We are thinking about the elephant as we talk together.
It is constantly on our minds.

For you see, it is a very big elephant.
It has hurt us all.
But we do not talk about the elephant in the room.

Oh, please say her name.
Oh, please say "______" again.
Oh, please, let's talk about the elephant in the room.

For if we talk about her death,
Perhaps we can talk about her life?

Can I say, "_____" to you and not have you look away?
For if I cannot, then you are leaving me
In a room...
With an elephant...

by: Terry Kettering

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Thursday, December 16, 2010

Review: God Gave Us Heaven

God Gave Us Heaven

I had the opportunity to review the brand new book God Gave Us So Much by Lisa Tawn Bergren which includes three of her "God Gave Us..." books.  I was thrilled to see that this trio included the God Gave Us Heaven title. 

This book touches a special place in my heart because of my calling to help those who are grieving. I especially look for publications that can help children through the grief process.  This is an excellent book to help children understand Heaven. I was excited to receive this book as our children talk a lot about their Aunt being in Heaven. Hopefully by reading through this book they will have a little better understanding of what Heaven is.

Momma C's Thoughts: The book opens with Little Cub asking Papa, "What's heav'n?". This begins a precious question and answer time between a father and son about death, our needs in heaven, and God. My disappointment in this book is that Papa did not go deeper on the question of how we get to heaven. He does an excellent job setting up "The Bridge to Life" but misses the most important part.

"So he sent his very own Son, Jesus, to be our bridge. All we have to do is walk across it to head toward our forever home."

We "walk across" the bridge by admitting we are a sinner and have disobeyed God, believing that Jesus died on the cross and rose again and that His blood was shed to pay for our sins, and confessing our sins and asking Jesus Christ to be first in our life. (For more information on this, click here.)

As parents, we sometimes are scared to go deeper with our children. But God says that it just takes a childlike faith to enter the Kingdom of Heaven (Mark 10:15). We need to seize every opportunity to explain God's greatest gift.

This book can be purchased separately or in the trio with God Gave Us the World and God Gave Us Love.  To read a review on the other books, click here.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

I Will Carry

Take comfort in these words from Isaiah 46:4:
Even to your old age, I am He,
And even to gray hairs I will carry you!
I have made, and I will bear;
Even I will carry, and will deliver you.
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Friday, December 3, 2010

Our Daily Bread: Learning From Erin

My father-in-law suggested that I read this devotion from Our Daily Bread.  I wanted to share it with you as well.  By clicking on the link, you can read the devotion and corresponding scripture.

Learning from Erin by David Branon

Erin’s life was so different from that of most 8-year-olds. While other kids were running and playing and eating ice cream, Erin was lying in a bed being fed through a tube—able to see only the brightest lights and hear only the loudest sounds. Her life consisted of needles and nurses and hospital visits as she battled ongoing illnesses and profound disabilities.

Surrounded by a remarkable family who cared for her with compassion and filled her life with love, Erin died before reaching her ninth birthday.

What can be learned from a precious child like Erin...Read more

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