Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Healthy Grieving #1 - Stay Connected

While looking through some old emails, my mom found a forward that I had sent to her just nine months after my sister died.  It contained a list of "10 Tips for Healthy Grieving" by author Steve Arterburn.  She wondered if I would like to use it on this blog and I asked if she would consider writing a little something about each one of the tips.  She kindly obliged.  For the next few weeks, we will be looking at these ten tips from the viewpoint of a grieving mom.  Yes, even after eleven years, she is still grieving and will always grieve. 

I can’t tell you which one of the tips is most important so we will just start with “connection”.  It is of utmost importance that you stay connected with someone.  This could be a family member, friend, pastor, or counselor.  At first this might appear to be one sided where you do all of the talking and they do the listening.  As a grieving person, we just need someone who will listen to our hurts.  If this person is a true friend, they will know their role and be content with their job.  This is your time to talk because down the road the roles will change.  You will need to be a listener for someone who has just begun grieving.  Not sure how to find someone?  Begin to pray that God would bring a wise person into your life who will listen with wisdom.  This person needs to be nonjudgmental but be able to help you stay on the path of healthy grieving. 

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