Thursday, May 19, 2011

Healthy Grieving #6 - Find a Support Group

God created us to need others.  Grief doesn't change this.  Being by yourself while grieving can be very dangerous.  Don’t feel like you can or have to go through it alone.  Try to find a church or community grief support group.  We need encouragers! 

It is very important that you find those who has experienced something similar.  Unfortunately, those who haven't shared in your "kind" of grief don't understand.  They sometimes give some crazy advice simply because they don't understand.  People in a support group with similar situations will understand. 

Unsure of support groups available in your area?  Call a local church or hospital.  Pray that God will lead you to a group that can hold your hand as you travel the roads of grief.

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Healthy Grieving #5 - Write a Letter

This one is the toughest for me.  Tip #5 is writing a letter to the loved one that you lost.  Honestly, I didn’t do this.  Probably never will.  The concept is that you share with the person you lost through a letter stating what you wish you could tell them in person.  I definitely have talked to my loved one many times, but I haven’t gone so far as to put it down on paper. 

There are so many things a grieving person wishes they could tell that very special person.  It just might be an “I love you” or “I miss you”.  This tip can be especially helpful if you lost your loved one and didn’t get time to prepare.   This letter could help with the closure that is so important.  It just might be the step that is needed for healing. 

Thursday, May 5, 2011

Guest Post: When Mother's Day is Difficult

Mother's Day is not a joyous day for everyone.  There are women who desperately want to be with their moms but can't because of death or shattered relationship.  Mother's Day is a fat reminder that the daily relationship with their mom is no longer there. 

Then there are women who desperately want to be a mom.  While everyone else is receiving cards and roses, these women are reminded once again that their arms are empty. 

Read an article written by a woman who is reminded every year in May that she is not a Mommy yet. A reminder to us all to be on the lookout for those who grieve this Mother's Day holiday.

On May 9th, we celebrate Mother’s Day once again. For many, it’s a time of appreciation and joy. For others, it can be one of the most difficult days of the year. This is often true for women facing infertility, families who have recently experienced the loss of a mother, and many other painful situations.

I’ve learned what it’s like for Mother’s Day to be difficult through my work at Dayspring as a card writer. Each year we receive letters about our “Difficult Mother’s Day” cards. One woman expressed her appreciation and then said, “I spent seven very painful Mother’s Days longing for motherhood while dealing with infertility and the losses of eight children through miscarriage and failed adoptions. I’ve also seen my own mother’s grief and struggle through Mother’s Day after the death of her mother. And I have many friends in less-than-ideal situations with their children.”  Read more...

Thank you Holley for allowing me to share part of your journey.
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